How I prepared to go out with the baby alone

So, I reached a milestone in motherhood last Saturday (1 Sep) — bringing baby out on my own to a relatively unknown place, in this case, Clan Cafe at Bukit Pasoh.

What gave me the boldness to bring baby out on my own? Well, I’ve been talking more to my mother-in-law and realise she’s quite capable in child-caring! She told me she used to bring her three children out from Bedok to Toa Payoh to visit her parents on Saturdays — on her own! I was amazed.. she told me she would carry the youngest in a carrier, the middle child in the stroller and hold my hubby’s hands (as he’s the oldest child) when heading out. Without. Taxi. No MRT Circle Line in early 1990s. I was like… *slow clap*

So, when my girlfriends and I planned to catch up over lunch, I had wanted to place baby at my in laws’ so I can head out to meet them on own. Eventually I decided against it after finding out that Bukit Pasoh is just right next to Outram Park station! If it’s near an MRT station, I should bring baby out on my own. If my MIL has done it (with three kids, no less), I should be able to do it too!

So brought her out, I did! And survived 🙂

What is necessary when bringing out a baby on your own? Here’s my list of things to prepare…

1) Wear contact lenses instead of glasses so that you won’t risk having your baby grab your glasses or have glasses slipping down your nose when settling the baby. You wouldn’t want something to go awry when you are struggling with the baby on your own!

2) Ensure you have diapers and a fresh change of clothes, for soiled moments. Because you don’t want to be buying one whole packet of diapers just because you forgot to bring a few pieces!

3) Carry a sling bag and a backpack. Backpack for all the baby “barang barang” and sling bag to easily reach your wallet, ez-link card and mobile phones.

4) Push the baby with a stroller. I always thought that I just need a trusty, good carrier when going out but I realise a good stroller is equally important. Especially when you want to put baby down to sleep for a while or just rest your aching shoulders/hips.

5) Be friendly and smiley. You need to be prepared to be friendly when going out alone as you never know when you need help from strangers, like having them help hold the door for your stroller, or carry your stroller or giving you an empathetic “it’s-okay” look when your baby starts screaming in public.

Here’s the picture of victory. Thank you, Jesus for watching out for both of us!

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How I wanted to announce my pregnancy – The Baker and the Bun

Except for a couple of scares, my pregnancy has generally been smooth-sailing, which I am really thankful to the Lord for. But these two scary episodes (with one involving going to KK Hospital) were enough to make me have reservations about sharing my pregnancy early to big groups of people on social media.

So when I was ready to share, I was planning to do so with a short story instead of posting a run-of-the-mill ultrasound picture… but after reading the story to DR, he found it strange to announce it this way, and so I withheld this story. Now that little E is already out and turning 12 weeks tomorrow, I decided to share this exclusively here. Haha.. presenting to you, “The Baker and the Bun”!

THE BAKER AND THE BUN

One fine day, the Baker decided to make a bun. He wanted the bun to be life-giving to those who would have it. So he personally rolled it, kneaded it, shaped it. He wanted to make sure the aroma of the baked bun would bring big smiles and satisfaction. He then placed the bun in Esther’s oven. He will bake it for about 9 months. De Ren, the Baker’s assistant is thrilled and looks forward to seeing the Baker’s masterpiece in January 2018!

~The End~

She just turned 7 weeks old!

10 weeks ago, I was wondering how life would change. Here I am, with the baby at her 7th week, now sleeping in our room as I type this post. I am amazed at seeing her in real life — from black and white ultrasound pictures to a real being whom I can cuddle. I still cannot believe that the foetus that had baked in my womb for almost the past one year is now in my arms. Isn’t God amazing and wonderful? Praise the Lord!

Our baby has been so blessed and loved, since conception till her birth. Sometimes I can’t believe that everything has been rather smooth thus far — everything was just right– like how baby waited till 18 January for the Caesarean section (when she could have come out earlier — that would have been an emergency c-sect), how her jaundice level was just at the acceptable level which allowed her to be discharged, how I had so much help from my family members, especially my mom, my MIL and my sis since the baby’s birth. God revealed to me that He cares and He is my provider, such that everything will be just right, just enough.

Challenges may come after I go back to work, especially with my work nature, but I will take each day as it comes. Each day has its own worries. I believe God will provide everything to be “just right”, “just enough”. He knows what I can bear…

Meanwhile, I’m enjoying the time without having to type emails, read newspapers for work muahaha. For now, life is about waking up to feed, changing diapers, talking to baby, pacifying the baby, pumping and napping whenever possible. It’s not bad… :p

In about 3 weeks’ time!

In about 3 weeks’ time, life as we know it will never be the same again. Counting down to seeing our baby face-to-face!

Am I prepared? Not really… but so many have said that it will be worth it. Trusting in the Lord Jesus for His joy, grace and wisdom through all these. May the Lord be our guide in this journey…

#36weekspregnant

I dreamt of my baby

It’s the last month before life changes forever next month. And this morning, I had the first dream of my baby.

In my dream, I was frantic and was wondering what I had missed out. Then I realise I have a baby.. and she’s out. She was sleeping soundly in a cot, in the room where DR and I were in when we were still staying with my parents. I peeked into the cot, and she was sucking her pacifier, sleeping soundly. Mom was also standing near me.

“She looks like me when I was a baby,” I thought in my dream.

Then I woke up… and I felt God assuring me that my baby will be out to see us soon… counting down to end Jan 2018!

Getting ready for our little one

It started with attending a pregnancy seminar…

And we visited a baby fair at Expo where we got a breast pump and a cot, including this free packet of diapers!

Mom (Grandma) bought our little one lots of onesies that can be buttoned from the front.

And we bought a changing table cum chest of drawers from Ikea, which was later painstakingly assembled by DR and Sarah using three hours!

Mom bought her towels..

And a church friend offered their pre-loved bottle steriliser!

Some pending items that we need for now:

– Baby bottles

– Baby carrier (getting a second-hand Manduca from Carousell which is in a pretty good condition. If the baby doesn’t like the carrier, at least I know I haven’t spent a bomb on this)

– One or two more sets of bedding (mattress cover, pillow case) for the cot

– Lots of diapers (S and M-sized)

– Lots of baby wipes

8 things I’m thankful for

8 days of 2016 have passed. 2015 whizzed by, and here I am in year 2016. Wow.

2015 has been an eventful year – both for the good and bad. But God has been so gracious to me that amidst the bad, I have been blessed with so many good things. Here are 8 things I am thankful for in 2015:

1. Deren graduated. Sanity restored for him, and for me. We could finally go overseas, head to weekend movies, watch tv dramas at night, and not worry about incomplete assignments.

2. My new house. Remember my post almost 3 years ago (check it out here)? I was still thinking about it and now, here I am, living in it. I love chilling in my house on evenings, sitting beside my window and gazing out to the peaceful park and flowing river. I love nature, and I believe Heaven would be so full of flowing rivers and green pastures. So the view outside my window is like a tiny, little glimpse into eternity in Heaven.

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Relaxing at my reclining sofa, admiring the calm evening outside

3. My mommy and sister. They have been such great help in easing me into my new house. I suffered terrible adjustment issues when I first moved. I doubted my abilities to manage a household and felt completely at a loss when it came to household chores and handling of bills. I didnt know how to cook, the appropriate detergent or cleaner to buy etc. Basically, I felt dumb and helpless. It was darn scary, I tell you. Worse still, I had to separate from my mom whom I have depended so much on for all my 28 years. This means, no more home-cooked food and cleaning my own house *bawls. I dunno how to do it* but, thankfully my mom and sister stepped in and helped to buy many household products to settle us in, cleaned our house and bought pretty bowls and decor to bring cheer to the house. Now, my mom comes over every other week to help us iron our clothes and cook dinner for us before she goes off for work in the afternoon. For that, I’m really, really thankful.

4. My new workplace. Someone told me that when you dread going to work every day, it means it’s time to leave. Leaving, it was, from the job I had for the past 5 years and one that I no longer found joy in. In fact, I sometimes woke up feeling nauseous last time. I was amazed how God opened paths so smoothly and quickly for me to go to my new workplace. There are new challenges in this new place, but having gone through the heat at my last workplace for the past 2 years (late-night rushing of major papers to fault-finding, perfectionist bosses; piled-up projects that were waiting to get started and never-ending work), I feel that these challenges are not as daunting.

5. My parents’ health. I thank God for watching over them and keeping them safe. Because they do not have any major health issues, I can concentrate on managing my work and personal life. I pray that they will continue to be healthy and enriched through God’s Word. Gotta admit, now that I moved out, I go back home about once every 2 weeks (as the other week is spent at Deren’s parents’ home), and darn, I miss my house and the comfort of being with my parents. I realise time is limited with them. So I do want to spend more time with my parents.

6. My friends – JC gal pals and C Girls. They kept me sane and human. They were understanding when I told them I felt too tired to meet up due to work. They allow me to be who I am, and cheered me on when I was going through a loooong rough patch last year.

7. My Nainai’s recovery after hospitalization. My nainai had a pacemaker inserted near her collarbone late last year. Thank God she recovered relatively well, but I really do hope I can help her more to ease her daily life in her twilight years.

8. God. I was torn down, ripped to the core of my identity, both at work and in my serving in church last year. DR said I probably was going through depression last year. But on hindsight, I believe God allowed it so that my identity could be rebuilt, rooted in Christ Jesus and not on my own supposed abilities. I remembered the many tears I cried, on Sundays during church, at home.. Oh, they still bring tears to my eyes as I think back on those days last year. God was so good, because He helped me up and sent so many different angels to encourage me in different ways, including healing me through the Pixar movie, ‘Inside Out’. For this, I am thankful that when I realise I had nothing, I still had God. He was and is really all I need.

So yes, this sums up the 8 things I am thankful for last year. Onward to 2016!! Can’t wait for the 1st exciting thing to happen in 2016 – our trip to Taipei in February!! And I will make Trip NZ happen soon, preferably by this year…must save $$.

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